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Dad posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 4, 2019
Hey!!! Another year gone by. Hope you’re watching over your niece and nephews today as they all head back to school. Give mom a kiss on the cheek for me. Miss you ... every day!!! Love ya Tiny!!!
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cuz posted a condolence
Tuesday, January 1, 2013
I miss u so much James I love u I always feel like u r somewhere around d me all the time I really feel u around d me when stuff goes wrong I wish u would have able to meet my girls u would love them and they would love u u were like a brother to me I just had to let u know that I love u and miss u cuz and always will
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Dad posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
Well, yesterday marks eight years. Couldn't even go to work. Cried all morning ... didn't eat all day.
You are still my little big man.
Love ya Tiny,
Dad
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Dad posted a condolence
Tuesday, June 5, 2012
How you and Caleb doing?
Miss you both. Your Uncle Larry is with you now. You guys want to know about fishing ... he's the man!!!
Miss you my boy. Love ya!!! Say hi to the family.
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ashley (shelly) posted a condolence
Saturday, March 12, 2011
i still miss you! i was thinking of you the other day.... :)
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nikki wilcox zambos posted a condolence
Friday, February 4, 2011
for some reason, i was thinking of you today. Guess i just miss your funny personality!
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Dad posted a condolence
Monday, January 25, 2010
Well, Your oldest brother just got another year older!! Lee is coming up this Saturday. Then there are the wives; grandkids; me; you; mom. It just never stops!!! That's OK cuz I just keep piling up the memories. I can almost come out here and not get all teary-eyed now. I just look at you and know what a great kid you were while we had you. And ... that you better be minding your grandparents while you're there without us ... BRAT!!!
Love ya,
Dad
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rzzach57@comcast.net posted a condolence
Thursday, August 27, 2009
I read the sad story of your son, my heart goes out to all the family.
I saw this first on foose's sight. God willing, you will be selected to redo the car. My fingers are crossed. God bless....Robert Zemanski in Florida
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Chelsea Rae! posted a condolence
Saturday, July 12, 2008
Just wanted to sa hey and let you know that I love you and miss you bunches! Everything is going ok it could be better but i am the only one that can change that. I love you bunches. I will stop by again sometime soon!
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Dad posted a condolence
Sunday, May 4, 2008
Patsy and I would like to thank the people who left flowers at James' place for his 23rd B-day.
There was a beautiful white rose plant and a beautiful dahlia plant. Patsy and I brought them home so we can plant them and water them.
The roses had a card from Jo Jo Romero. We don't know if this is one person or two. If you come out here and read this please let us know. The dahlia didn't have a card. We'd love to know who brought them.
James is truly missed, but it is wonderful to see that he is still so loved by his friends family.
Not a day goes by that Mom and I don't think about him and what a wonderful time he must be having where he is. What an experience.
Love you all,
Cliff (Dad ... or as James would call me 'Pops')
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Dad posted a condolence
Monday, April 7, 2008
Well, your B-day is coming up again at the end of the month.
We're going to go to Hannah and Preston's young 'uns B-day this next weekend. I love what Chelsea wrote about Caleb's son. Cool!!
We'll probably celebrate you're B-day with cup cakes and balloons up where you're livin' now.
Man do I miss you're smile.
Love for eternity,
Dad
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Chelsea Rae! posted a condolence
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Hey bubba I just wanted to let you know that we have a new addition to the family! Calebs baby! He is outrageously adorable and I just wanted let you know he was named after you his full name is Jordan Allen Wickstrom (JAW) same initials and everything! All of us wanted to let you know that we intend on informing Jordan of the fantastic, loving, and funny guy thaty he was named after! I also wanted to let you know that I will be getting a tattoo here sometime soon with the smile now cry later faces with jaw on it to remind all of us wickstroms that even though we lost a great person we gained a new one that will carry on your initials and will reminds every to smile for what we have now and cry later about the ones we love and miss! You are always in our hearts and we love you and I want you to know I truely believed that in the past year you have helped me out tremendously on two seperate occasions which you already know about! I thank you from the bottom of my and I promise never ever to take anyone or anything for granted!
Love Your Lil Sis,
Chelsea Rae
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Dad posted a condolence
Monday, January 29, 2007
Hey buddy. Been trying to work on the Mustang. Lee and I will get it running and then we're going to dedicate it to you ... brat!!!
MG is still in garage. Need to get started on that later in the summer.
Mr. Arend says 'Hi'.
Miss your smiling face ... but all I have to do is close my eyes and they're you are.
Give Grandma and Grandpa kisses and hugs from me.
Love you,
Dad
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Mom posted a condolence
Friday, January 26, 2007
James keep looking over us...boy its been a rough last 5 months for me...miss you....love you....
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Dad Wilder posted a condolence
Monday, April 24, 2006
For anyone who comes out here to read about James ... I want you to know that we love you all. Thanks for all your kind words.
This Sunday, April 30, 2006, we will be celebrating James' 21st B-day up at the cemetary. We're going to place 21 ballons-on-sticks around his grave. I think he'd get a good laugh out of it.
Patsy, the other boys and I sure do miss him. But, as Jennifer says below, we at least know where he is. We know that he's always 'home' on time. And, that he's singing with the best chorus around.
I want Mr. Arend to know that he taught him well and now he's getting to show off with the other greats up there.
Well, if anyone reads this ... you're more than welcome to come join us in the afternoon up at James' place (cemetary that is).
Love to all,
Dad (Cliff) Wilder
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Jennifer Rhodes posted a condolence
Wednesday, January 11, 2006
I know its a little late, and the family doesn't know me. But James and I were close. Two days before he died we went out for Ice Cream and he took me a ride in his car. I miss James so much, his humor, his seriousness, his numerous voices, and most of all his sincerness. He was my teddy bear, and he always made sure I was okay. Good wishes and Good luck to the family. I love you James and miss you, at least I know that your okay and safe up there with the big man.
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Mom posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 29, 2005
I wasn't going to put anything in here....but I am so thankful for all the support that we have gotten from everyone....I think knowing where James is, has been the best thing that keeps me going...I am thankful every night that he is safe and doing what the Lord wants for him to be doing. He is here..in a dream he came to me....his smiliey ol self and threw himself on top of me like he did when I was laying in bed on my side......with a great big smile for me and a tear saying he missed me....then he gave me a big hug and was gone.....I woke up crying......I think the hardest day for me has been when I wrote the last payment of James' headstone. I cried throught the whole thing....it was the final good bye....the true and real thing that you are gone.....from this life anyway......I miss that stupid little grin that you always had and you peeking around the corner in the bedroom and saying Mommy I'm home....you still called me Mommy....up to the day you left....you silly boy.....but I loved you for it....I still wonder why up in Heaven I agreed to have you come down, and have you taken from us?????? But they say some people come into your life for a season and are gone....you will never be gone....but physical you are.....I am reminded all the time you always said I was too judgemental about things.......and I try everyday not to be.....it is not my place to be the judge....I just know what is true for me and I want everyone else to know too. Oh how I miss you little boy......you will always be my little boy......On your 20th Brithday, we went to your grave sight.....many peole have been there and left flowers and fun things..As a mom I am thankful that your body is close....don't know how I would be if not knowing where you were...I pray for the parents who don't know where thier kids are....we are happy that we have a place to go and talk to you .....may you watch over us in times of need.... You will always be with us.....what a wonderful spirit you have been...Missing you always, Mom
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Lee Wilder (da middle bro) posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 22, 2005
I'd like to start this off by saying that I have a hard time expressing what I "mean" to say at times, so, if some of this just doesn't sound "right" or you don't understand it that's OK. For those of you who are also the middle child (like me) you'll probably pick right up what I'm trying to say (it's a middle sybling thing ^-^ ). Well, here it goes...
Being one of James' older brothers was DEFFANTLY a trip, to say the least. When James was little he and I didn't get along very well. It wasn't until he was about the age of 6 or 7 until he and I really started to get allong. That was when he started trying to crack jokes. When I say try, I mean "try". He was really bad! Their were times when James would "try" to make us all laugh while we were out at dinner. I remember one time in perticular when we were at a resturaunt that shal remain nameless *coff*Emporrers Palace*coff*. We were sitting at the table waiting for our food to come out and James was trying to make us laugh. MAN was he trying! He was trying so hard that Dad (Cliff) flipped and told him to just be quiet!... James got a really pouty look on his face, and looked like he was about to cry. Now... You got to realize that up to this time I was the comedian of the family. Whenever I wanted someone in the family to laugh, i could make them laugh (it might have taken a while but I could do it in the end ^-^ ). I remember giving James a couple of tips that night, and ever sence then he went through the roof!!! He had gone FAR beyond my expectations in giving laughter to people. In just a phrase he could make you ROLE on the floor. Often times he could just use an "Umm-Hummm", with that smirk on his face, and you had no defence! He MASTERED the abbillity to flore people at whim. I beleave that the reason why he made us laugh so much whenever we went out to eat is to get back at us for all those times we told him to be quiet when he was younger. Dad would still try, but he would almost always be James' first target. As soon as James would get Dad rolling he figured everyone else was "free game".
If you EVER had the privelage to go out with James to dinner, and he started in with the jokes, and never stopped until you couldn't eat and needed a doggy-bag... Conciter yourself lucky, very lucky, I beleave that that was when James was at his best. Whenever you were in a possition for him to pull out the "Public Humilliation Card", you were screwed.
They resurved the back quarter of The Olive Guarden for us whenever we showed up with James. We would have to wate like an extra half an hour for them to clear out the back section of people, so James wouldn't have strangers spitting their ravioli out there nose from over hearing one of James' jokes. It's not like the people didn't like us whenever we showed up. They actually fought over who would serve the table, because James concitered the waighter/waightress apart of the table. He included them as best he could in the funnyness that was "The James".
Now remember that I was the comedian first and I tought James, SO... Just emagine what happened when the two of us got together and started cracking them left and right. You were gone, you had no way of NOT losing that Pepsi out your nose. You were toast, there was no excaping it. Your laugh-box belonged to us for the next hour. But then I moved over to Cheney, WA to be with my wife (then girlfriend) Keely, as she went through college to be a teacher. And when we came back I KNOW that I lost my edge. It's been slowly comming back though with the help of James. But now that he's gone it's been slow going ^-^ . Don't worry though, I'm getten allong as best I can without him (it's hard most the time, but I'm doing alright). I remember one time after I came back from Cheney we were hanging out and we were cracking jokes again and I said something WAY out there and we just continued on FOREVER like...
James(J):Whow dude, that was way over the line.
Lee(L):Was it?
J:Yes, it was.
L:Are you shure, I didn't think I passed the line.
J:Yes you did, if the line was here (points) you were here (points).
L:I thought I was about here (points)
J:Na, bro... You were deffinatly here (points).
L:But what about here (point closer to "line"), i didn't even come here?
J:Maybe if ya were there it might-a been koo, but ya were definatly here (points back to original spot)
We were able to go back and forth like that forever. With everyone arround us droppen like flies. That's gunna be the thing that I miss the most about him... Our abillity to make people laugh at us. Because it's a totally different feeling to make people laugh with a partner, instead of flying solo.
I'm very happy that James took my abillity to make people laugh and built upon that skill to make hundreds of his family members laugh. This includes all people he knew, I don't think he had "friends", everywhere he went he was with "family". That's just how he was.
I also KNOW that he got a LOT from Dan, I know that Dan doesn't think that he had that much influance on James (them being seperated by 10&1/2 years did make it hard). But if you take into count how many family members James had... Dan't skills of support, tough love, companyonship, and steady resolve were always present. James was lucky to have Dan as an older brother for as long as he did! I know that I am very lucky. Although I don't think I tell him enough. The same goes for my great parrents.
I was the only one who got to see James before we finally put him in his resting place. I just needed to know that he was gone. Or else I would've expected him to show up at my door anytime and say something like, "Let's go fly kites today", or something like that.
To everyone, I tell you that he looked at peace. Like his job was done to the best of his abillities with the time that he was given. With that silly slight smirk of his that would make you giggle. He was ready to go, and you could tell that he'd miss everyone until he sees you all when it's our time to go be with him.
I'd like to end this with a song that I've grown fond of here recently that TOTALY reminds me of James. I don't know who sings it, and I don't know exactly what the title of the song is. All I can tell you is that it's a country song, and I think the name of it is "Dream Big". Beleave me, even if you're not a country music listener, you NEED to hear this song at least once. I'm sorry that I don't know the songs name, or artist. But you'll know the song when you hear it. It's playing rather steadly on 94.1KMPS.
Thank you all for your loving support, and live life to its fullest every day... Like James... It's the only way to truly experiance life.
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Mrs. Wilmoth and family posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 21, 2004
I was so saddened when I read about the loss of James. When I was looking through our photo albums and I found a picture of James at Bush Middle School during a game. He was standing up cheering and I mean he was full of vigor. I would like to offer this picture to his family as it is one they have not seen. With the memory of James it will remind me to live life with the same vigor he possessed every day. We are so sorry for your loss, he was a great guy.
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Caleb wickstrom posted a condolence
Thursday, December 2, 2004
Its not gonna be the same with out you, you were my bestfriend you always were there to listen to me when i really needed to talk to someone you were always there and now your gone. I MISS YOU ALOT BF4EVER
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The Wickstroms posted a condolence
Saturday, September 18, 2004
To James and His Family,
The first time I met James was around 1998 or 1999. Caleb had brought him home from school to meet me and Chelsea.
James was a very boisterous child with a sense of humor that would not quite. To be quite honest, I didn't know how to take him at first; very soon he was a big part of the family.
Many numerous times James and Caleb where inseperable. The friendship between them grew very strong.
As they grew older and matured they started to follow different paths yet still stayed in touch.
I nCalebs Junior year he gave up on school and dropped out. Try as I may, to no avail he would not go back. Then James' graduation came. After seeing the James accomplish and achieve his goals, Caleb saw it all in a different perspective. James sat down with Caleb and talked him into going back to finish school and graduate.
For that and so much more I am grateful to have had James in our lives. He was a humorous asset to our lives and we will miss him ever so much. We Love You!
Also, we would like to let Clifford and Patsy know that we are here for them thru thick and thin, until the end.
With Sympathy, and love,
Tammy (mom), Caleb (brother), and Chelsea (Sis)!
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David Lousteau posted a condolence
Friday, September 17, 2004
I am surprised and saddened to hear of James' passing. His spirit will not be forgotten.
D.L.
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John & Cathy Brockmann posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 15, 2004
Although we did not have the pleasure of meeting James, we felt we knew him from the stories our daughter (Jessica aka one of the Shelly’s) would tell us. She told us how important his family was to him and that it was his mission in life to make people laugh at least once every day. It seems that came natural for him, from all the stories we have heard about James. Since Jessica met James, she spent many evening with him and the other “Shelly’s” laughing hysterically. Although she is having a hard time understanding why he had to go, she feels very privileged to have known him. Our deepest sympathy goes out to the Wilder family on your tragic loss.
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Robin and Brett Youngquist posted a condolence
Monday, September 13, 2004
We were both so sorry to hear about James. We were both privileged to know James and your family. He not only lent his wonderful voice to the choir, but his warmth and contagious sense of humor brightened everyone who came in contact with him. Although, the heavenly choir must be rejoicing to have his voice in their midst, we will surely feel the loss here on earth. We are both grateful that you shared him with us and all those who were in choir, or were fortunate to see him perform. Bless your family and we both pray that God comforts you in the quiet times that come, and keeps crystal clear the wonderful memories you now cherish.
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Keith McDonald posted a condolence
Sunday, September 12, 2004
I wasn't able to attend Jame's Service yesterday but I was told the Church was filled to overflowing. To his Family, this is the final testamony to the respect of many others for the short time James had on this Earth and how much joy and happiness he brought to everyone Blessed enough to know him. He was truly a Gift from God. You can all be very proud of the wonderful Family you were to him and for your part in making the him the truly fine young Man that he was. If only all of todays Youth could be patterned after James.
This morning I read something that addresses your loss. "Our hearts still ache in sadness, and secret tears will flow. What it meant to lose you, no one will ever know."
May God be with you and give you the strength and comfort to make it through these most trying of times.
Respectfully,
Keith McDonald
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Dan Wilder(Oldest Brother and Son) posted a condolence
Saturday, September 11, 2004
It is sometimes difficult being the one that the family looks to for advice, decisions and strength. It is a role I have accepted and even on most occasions enjoy. But as I type this message I realize I must also let my feelings be known during this time, sort of a personal therapy if you will.
Today I will assist in putting my youngest brother's body in the ground. Something I can honestly say I never thought about before this early morning. I know he's not here. He's already in heaven, in a holding pattern if you will. But putting his body in the ground is kind of a finality.
I have so many memories of my youngest brother and by far the most have to do with laughter. Don't get me wrong, there have been times I wanted to kill him (not literally).
Most know him for his God given tallent to make people laugh, but I will remember him for all of his traits and tallents.
When he was younger (3 or 4) he would always want to play with me and my friends, but I would usually pawn him off on Lee. When he was a little older (5 to 12) he looked up to me, but I was too busy to notice. And when I finally had time for him (13 and older) I'd lost my ability to have an influence on him. He still admired me (sometimes listened to my advice) but he had other influences out of my control. I lost time with him. I always thought he'd be there. I wonder if he ever thought the same of me. Did he ever wonder 'Why is Dan not here?', probably, and he can tell me about those times later.
I've had the priveledge to sing with, him although my voice was really no match for his. Today he sings for our Heavenly Father. I would like to pick a sound that reminds me of him but I have yet to hear something worthy of this. There were so many things we were going to do together. Now, they'll have to wait a little while. I can't be sad for him, he's in a better place.
We will go on. We have pictures to remind us of his smile. We have songs to remind us of his voice. And we have family and friends to remind us of the things he did that made him so memorable.
It's 2:00am and today I will put my brothers' body in the ground. I wish I had a little more time.
I love you James, and I can't wait to play with you. Keep waiting though, I need a little more time. I know you're there for me.
Danny
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Jeanette Gum, friend forever posted a condolence
Saturday, September 11, 2004
To my dear friends, Patsy and Cliff -- nothing any of us can say, expresses how much love and respect The Gum family grew to have for James as a truly wonderful child of God. Some of our family is so privileged to have known him almost all of his life. What a fantastic influence he's had on so many! The love and goodness he generated goes on and inspires each of us to betterment of ourselves. The Gospel and its truth warms our memories. My heart-felt prayers and thoughts are always with you. Love, Jeanette
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Ashley Lieb aka Shelly #1 posted a condolence
Saturday, September 11, 2004
Patsy, Cliff, Dan, lee and to everyone else that knew and loved James first off let me say how very lucky we all are for knowing and loving James, its really rare when a single person has such an impact on everyone and their lives. James is the sweetest guy i have ever met. although I have only known him for this short summer, my life will be so hard with out him. He comforted me when i felt like everything was falling a part, make me smile and laugh uncontrolably when ever he was around, and for all those huge "shelly hugs"i will be missing thoughs, he is and always will be in my heart. To the parents: he loved you oh so much, he would always talk about you, you did a great job raising such an awesome guy. To the Brothers: he looked up to you! i know this is hard but hey just remember James wants us to be happy and smiling! god bless and take care!
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Spahr family - Karen, Jim, Eric, Talley & Trevor posted a condolence
Friday, September 10, 2004
You are in our thoughts and prayers. We knew James since he went to school at East Olympia and all through high school. It was fun to see him change and grow. He will never be forgotten and your family will always be in our thoughts and hearts.
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The Parent Family posted a condolence
Friday, September 10, 2004
James was a fine young man, and will be missed by all of us. He was always kind and humorous. Our thoughts have been with all of you. We are unable to attend the service, as we are out of town, but would like you to know that we are thinking of you. Again, our deepest sympathies.
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Mrs. Kilmer and East Olympia Elementary posted a condolence
Friday, September 10, 2004
Our most sincere thoughts are with you at this difficult time. James has touched so many hearts, I cannot begin to tell you how much we will all miss him. James would stop in and visit us at East Oly several times each year. It was fun to see him and hear how he was doing and what he was up to. He had a hug, smile, handshake, and joke for everyone. I especially enjoyed watching him sing in concert when the choir would come back and perform at East Oly. He will always be a part of us. With deepest sympathy, Mrs. Kilmer
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Betty Mackey posted a condolence
Friday, September 10, 2004
Dear Cliff -- I was very saddened to hear the tragic news about your son James. The loss of a child is the worst possible thing that could ever happen. My heart goes out to you and your family. I am so very sorry.
J
JoAnn Rardin, Randy O'neal posted a condolence
Friday, September 10, 2004
Wilder Family: I wish I had known James better, we have been neighbors for 9 yrs and part of the yearly camping trip for 4 yrs. What I did know of James is that he was a great person and loved by many. My son (Randy) doesn't speak of him much, I think it is something that is hard for him, but when he does he says " James was " funny and Real Nice". You know coming from a 15 yr old that says alot! James was always respectful, funny and willing to lend a hand if he thought it was needed....no questions asked. He was truly an all around great kid and we will miss him, but he will be in our thought always. Our hearts and prayers are with your family and all who knew and loved him. JoAnn & Randy
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Tim "Uncle Tim" & Terry "Aunt Terry" Mayo posted a condolence
Friday, September 10, 2004
We wanted to let you know that we are thinking of you, and are very sorry that you lost James. He was the most wonderful young man, and he made a very deep impact on our lives. He made our camping trips memorable, and he had the incredible knack of always showing up around dinner time. He also was a very good friend to my nephew Caleb, he was the main instigator in Caleb going back to school and I'll always be grateful for that. Thank you for allowing us to share time with such an amazing human being. If there is anything we can do to help please give us a call. The sky is the limit.
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Chelsea Wickstrom posted a condolence
Friday, September 10, 2004
I have known James since I was in the 4th grade he has been like an older brother to me. James and my brother have been best friends for awhile now and when we heard about what happened to him it hit us all very hard. Although I have never met Patsy and Cliff my deepest sympathy's go to them. I know that nothing can replace that precious gift that you lost. With all of my love Chelsea Rae Wickstrom
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Heather Aller posted a condolence
Thursday, September 9, 2004
Even though I was never close to James, I had several classes with him through-out middle and high school. He was one of those people that you knew would make you smile. You'd never hear a bitter word come out of his mouth and he was always making people laugh. He was truly a genuine person and will be forever missed.
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The Nonamaker Family posted a condolence
Thursday, September 9, 2004
Mr. and Mrs. Wilder: Our thoughts have been with you and will continue to be. James spirit had a huge impact on my son Kenny, as has his sudden death. Please know your loss has prompted our family to embrace our children and their friends and to appreciate our precious time with them.
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Nikki Wilcox Zambos posted a condolence
Thursday, September 9, 2004
Oh...Oh...What could i say to make myself and your family feel better about this great loss in your life. James was like a little brother to me and even though he had a lttle brother annoyance to him, i truely loved him like one! This came as a shock to me hearing that he passed suddenly. He will be missed and thought of all the days in my life. James had a wonderful life and made alot of people laugh and enjoy thiers!
I love you Cliff and Patsy (my second mom and dad), and i will think of you all on saturday!
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The Blake Family: Mark, Joni, Greg, and Jill posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
James brought much joy to all of our family and we will always remember him with much fondness. He was always bringing a smile to our faces, with his love of life and happy go lucky attitude. We are terribly saddened by your loss.
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Alison Hemmings posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
I never got the chance to be a close friend to James but I knew who he was and often expirienced the joy he brought to those around him. I know his friendly spirit always made me feel welcome at Tumwater High School. My heart goes out to your family in this time of great loss and mourning, may the Lord be with you.
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The Colonial Inn staff member posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
James was employed here at The Colonial Inn since May of 2004. James had a wonderful personality to work with the Seniors in our building. He was constantly singing to the ladies, and sharing his future hopes and goals. Last week one of the ladies heard James singing in the kitchen and asked him to sing for them in the dining room. Our residents were serenaded by James accapella style, and will always hold onto that memory and gift.
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Marilyn Lindholm Bates (formerly Varpness) posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
Patsy and Cliff ~
I am so sorry to hear of the death of your precious young son. You are both in my heart at this difficult time. Please share my condolences with your family and know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers. May God comfort you through your tears.
With Love and Sympathy,
Marilyn
Love,
Marilyn
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Joel Murray posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
I just wanted to offer my deepest condolences to your family in your time of despair. James was one of the funniest and dynamic individuals I met throughout my time attending elementary through high school with him, and I'm deeply saddened to hear of his passing. He generously brought the gift of humor and happiness to all those he touched, and he will be missed. God be with you in your time of pain.
Best,
Joel Murray
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Kayla Travis posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
Hanging out with James always brought a smile to my face and he always made me laugh. He had a one of a kind personality that could never be forgotten. I knew him for a brief time but everytime that I would hang out with him and his friends, we would always have fun together. May God be with the family through this pain.
With sympathy,
Kayla Travis
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Debbie Vessey (Hendrickson) posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
Patsy, I was so sorry and shocked to hear about your son. I just read about it today. There's nothing I can say I know. Please let Cliff know that I am thinking about you all. I didn't know your son, but I remember you and Cliff and I know he must have had a great life with such wonderful people as parents.
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Jerry & Angel (Wilder) Day posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
We are so sorry to hear of your loss. I (Angel) will always remember James as the "Comedian" of the family. He always made me laugh with his jokes. We know that you are experienceing a tremendous loss, and we are so sorry that you are having to go through that, but remember that James is with GOD in Heavan and that is a truely wonderful place to be. And from time to time, he will let you know that he is still around. May GOD be with you in your time of sorrow. We will all miss him terribly. With all our love and deepest sympathies, Jerry & Angel (Wilder) Day
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Hillary Paine posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
I was never close to James but whenever I saw him in the hallways of Tumwater High School it always brought a smile to my face. He was such a happy person and so much fun to be around. I will always remember him as "Santa Clause" and always having something funny to say. I know his spirt and memories will live on in Tumwater High School. I am so sorry for the great loss in your family and let God be with you through everything. With sympathy, Hillary Paine
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Keith McDonald posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
My sincere condolences for the tragic loss of James. I didn't personally know him but had the pleasure of working with Dan at Fire Dist. #6. Dan was always one of my favorites. My Wife Judy attends your Church and knows you all well. Words cannot express the sadness I feel for your Family. I have been told that God has a plan for each of us but losing such a wonderful young Man at such an early age is confusing and hard for me to understand. Hopefully your Faith will provide the strength and comfort you need during this trying period of time. We will see James again and as long as we keep him in our hearts and thoughts, he will never leave us.
Keith McDonald
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Josh & Cari Metcalf posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
Wilder Family, we have had the privelege of being a part of your family for the last three years and we know that your strong family unity will help guide you through these painful and unfortunate times. James was a great person; kind, funny, caring, the list goes on. We enjoyed the times that James graced us with his presence, we will truly miss him. God bless your family!
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Jennifer Yandle posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
James was one of the funniest, kindest, and unique individuals that I have ever had the privilege of meeting. As I sit here and remember the person he was, I admire his ability to make people happy. He treated everyone with the utmost respect, and never spoke a harsh word. I feel privileged to have known him in high school. You raised a wonderful son, and he will be missed. I am so sorry about your loss.
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Jessica Brozina posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
Although I didn't know James very well I could always identify him as Santa during December. Before our Winter Break James would dress up in his red and white suit handing out candy canes to all of us students. He always had jokes and could bring a smile to anyone's face. I know he will be missed and I'm so sorry for you loss. My condolences to the whole Wilder family.
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Kelli A. Ravenburg, neighbor posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
"As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."Proverbs 27:17
James sharpened a great many, including me. I am blessed to have known him.
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Justin G. Ravenburg posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
These are my respects, as best as I can give them. Although I didn't get the opportunity to get to know him as well as I would have liked, it was obvious from my time spent around him that he was indeed a great young man. My prayers for you all.
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Judy Eng posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
I got to know James as a friend of my son Richard, I liked him immediately because he was so well manured. We would joke and give each other a hard time every time he came to my home. He always enjoyed my company as well as my sons. He will be greatly missed, I am truly sorry for your loss. I can't begin to know what you are going through but just know that my thoights and prayers are with you. God Bless.
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Susi Doss and Family posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
Dear Family Wilder.Our Hearts go out to you at this sad time in your Life.May God be with you.You are in our Prayers.
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Megan Pearce posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
James was a wonderful, funny, and caring individual that will be truly missed. The last day of school before winter break every year was always my favorite, seeing James walk around the halls in his Santa costume. I loved having concert choir with him and seeing his big smile everyday. My heart and prayers are with you, James, and your family.
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Emily Logsdon posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 8, 2004
James had the most infectious personalities of anyone I have ever met. If anyone, especially myself, needed a laugh or needed to be cheered up in any way James was always right there. I had the incredible pleasure of knowing James for several years and I can say without a doubt in my mind that he was one of the greatest human being I will ever have the pleasure of knowing. My sincere condolences to his family.
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