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Mary Jane Peaco, Durham, ME posted a condolence
Saturday, April 21, 2012
I was very shocked and saddened to learn of the passing of my Uncle during recent geneology research via Ancestry.com. I had lost touch with him in the late '80's and didn't know he had moved from California. So sorry to have missed being in touch with him these many years as I would have loved to have been a part of his life after his retirement. So sorry for your loss Connie.
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Dolly & Randy Roehl posted a condolence
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Jim,
You are greatly missed, my friend and family for 45 years.
Hugs and condolences to Connie, and love.
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Pat Helton posted a condolence
Friday, January 15, 2010
Dear Connie,
I am so sorry to hear about Jim. He was a wonderful man, who we really enjoyed knowing. He was so happy being married to you, and I am sure it is very hard for you without him.
I will pray for you and your family as you go through your grief. Please stay in touch.
Warm regards,
Pat Helton
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Theresa Schultz posted a condolence
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Connie,
I am so sorry to know about Jim. He loved life and knew how to help others enjoy life also.
I have many memories about JIm from single strand and also from stopping by your house many times to delivery my Realty Rap (Real Estate Newsletter)
My condolences to you and all of your family, Connie.
God Bless,
Love,
Theresa Schultz
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Marie Cheever posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
After reading the messages below; it is clear these friends knew the "true" Jim Gray. Crusty - yes; good hearted - absolutely; opinionated - without question; caustic retorts - count on it! Sadly, we will all miss our friend.
Jim was well loved in our SS group; and could always be counted on to lend a hand, cheer up a friend, participate in discussions and even make a fool of himself in a holiday skit. We recently had a SS reunion and it was then that we learned of Jim's passing; we all have special memories of the good timese we shared.
Connie, please accept my sincere good wishes as you move forward in your life without Jim. He was a good man, and you completed him and brought him great joy and happiness.
Hugs,
Marie
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Ken Burke posted a condolence
Saturday, October 3, 2009
I knew Jim from all his years at Newbury Park and at Hawthorne.
I enjoyed every minute that we interacted.
I would meet him sometimes on the quad at Newbury park, and would say to him, "I've had it up to here,(and place my hand at the lower half of my chest),with you! Jim always cracked up at the joke and also never failed to make a snappy retort.
While his final days at Hawthorne were not a joyful time he was still full of the fight, and I always admired him for that quality.
May he rest in peace.
Ken burke
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Rita Freeman posted a condolence
Sunday, July 5, 2009
I was just resently made aware of Jim's passing. I knew he had been ill, but didn't realize how ill. I knew Jim much better than Connie so the communication was through emailing with Jim when he and Connie moved to Washington. Connie, I am so sorry for your loss. Jim was a unique indivdual. I met him in Camarillo/Thousand Oaks and when he moved to Washington, he continued his friendship with many through the great internet. His rare sense of humor could drive you crazy but I loved the bantering and the one-upmanship, all of which was part of Jim. I'm only sorry that he was unable to get to Arizona where he could enjoy some of the warm weather and golf that have loved. However, I'm sure he is in a better place with no more pain and I'll bet he's even sitting in a golf cart with a set of clubs somewhere in heaven just having a grand old time driving them all crazy now! He truely was one of a kind and will be missed. I will miss his emails and his jabs at my comments. No one could "jab" like Jim. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Connie.
Hugs, Rita :0)
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Patricia "Pat" Hull & Stanley Fishman posted a condolence
Saturday, May 23, 2009
I met Connie when my family moved to Phoenix, AZ, in 1976. She and I were among several neighbors that formed a child-care club. We babysat for each other's children and got to know each other well. I met Jim some years later, when Connie brought him to Phoenix to meet her friends and relatives. I really only saw him a few times when he and Connie visited Phoenix. I was single by then, and they were living in Thousand Oaks. They always took me out to dinner when they visited. It was during one of those dinners as we discussed how much society had changed from our childhood times, when I mentioned that I felt very behind the times because I didn't have a computer, nor know how to "go on line." "Oh I just got a new computer setup," Jim said. "I gave my old one to the church. I put it on a counter and it has been exactly where I placed it for the last 6 weeks. Apparently they have no use for it. I'll send it to you." Connie rolled her eyes at the idea of Jim "ungifting" the church. True to his word, Jim mailed (US Post) the entire computer set-up including speakers and a printer, to me in Phoenix. A friend helped me learn how to use it; and that was the start of a long and regular email correspondence with Jim. The world has lost a much loved and quite unique individual in the passing of Jim Gray. He was a man that could annoy you to rage one minute, and the next minute you'd want to hug him for some beautiful act or insightful thought. Jim was a climbing rose in the garden of life...sometimes a beautiful bloom and other times a bramble or even a cockleburr, but always an achiever. He considered his duty to inspect for and right the small inequities of the world around him, by bringing them to the attention of those who could effect change. His intelligent analysis and logical reasoning were hard to refute; and he never quit irritating until change occured. Many on-line friends, including me, will miss his steady stream of funny emails; and, when we asked for it, his sage and pointedly sarcastic-humorous advice. Despite the fact we only interacted on-line, Jim Gray was a part of our lives. My companion, Stanley, only met Jim twice, but liked him immediately for his earthy genuineness. The past lengthy hospitalization was extremely difficult for both Jim and Connie. Stan and I will miss Jim; but we are relieved to know his suffering has ceased. Sincere condolences and sympathy to Connie for the loss of her loving husband. Fondly, Pat & Stan
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Evan Hirsch posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
It was a blessing to know Jim. He made my life better. Thank you Jim!
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Memorial Celebration, Pastor Appelo's sermon posted a condolence
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Jim often chided me when he thought that I was perhaps becoming too liturgical in the worship service. Maybe there was a new liturgy or response. Maybe my actions were too formal. Something. And he would let me know it. "What's this all about?" he'd say, pointing to the bulletin or mimicking my actions. Jim and I definitely had different tolerance levels and differing loves for the liturgy! Jim was not raised in a liturgical tradition, it was not his way. And I think that he thought that it was his responsibility to be the voice of the church that gives caution against worshiping the form over substance; outward action over inward belief; beautiful words over sincere words. Jim could not abide having the church celebrate a day without keeping focus on the One who made that day. I appreciated that voice.
And so it is with some sort of delicious liturgical irony that I would like to point out that Jim was born on a Good Friday and he died on Easter Sunday. I can hear him saying, "Let's see what you do with that, Pastor!"
Jim was born on the day the church was marking the death of Christ and Jim died when the church was celebrating the resurrection of Christ. At first glance, it really should have been the other way around. It really should have been that he was born on an Easter Sunday when the church was celebrating new life? It really should have been that he died on a Good Friday when the church was somberly commemorating the sacrifice and death of God? No. Then we'd be celebrating form over substance. The day over the One who made the day. Then we'd be talking about a calendar date rather than an act of God.
When Jim was born the church was reading "He was wounded for our transgressions," "by his stripes we are healed." The church was reading the words of Christ from the cross "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" and "Father forgive them" when Jim entered this troubled world. Jim's borning cry and the self-giving love of God in Christ for all the cries of all the people were marked on the same day. When Jim breathed his first, we heard of Christ breathing his last - for our sake. God was acting in love for our lives.
When Jim died the church was singing "Alleluia!" There were flowers and pretty dresses and sweet foods and laughter. The church was celebrating Christ's power over death: God's message that death does not have the last word.
Today it is Jim who proclaims the Gospel. Today his life and death proclaim to us the substance of these past days. We live our lives in the shadow of the cross. We live our lives under the One who brought forgiveness. We die in the light of the resurrection. We die enfolded in the One who gives the final word. That word is Life. Or as Paul says in Romans 14, "We do not live to ourselves, and we do not die to ourselves. If we live, we live in the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord; so then, whether we live, or whether we die, we are the Lord's."
And that's a beautiful thing.
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Gary & Delia Kellogg posted a condolence
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
So sorry to hear of your loss. We always enjoyed Jim's humor and I know he will be missed, but also remembered with fond memories. Love you you Connie - Gary & Delia
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Saundra Bryn posted a condolence
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Connie, while I never knew Jim, I would expect that you would choose a lovely man. Please accept my condolences as you work through this difficult time.
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Karen Reeves (Curran) posted a condolence
Monday, April 20, 2009
Dear Connie,
Thank you for you email.
I will never forget Jim!! I used to look forward to his little notes on my desk regarding somebody left their computer on again! Or the air conditioning was left on all weekend!! We certainly missed you both when you moved away. What a cute couple you were!
God bless you!
Karen
Church Secretary at Ascension Lutheran Church- Thousand Oaks
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Bill Roberts (YOUR IHOP FRIENDS) posted a condolence
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Jim you will surely be missed by your "STEAK COOK" and all your friends at IHOP.
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Shelley Mann posted a condolence
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Connie, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your loved ones as you celebrate that full life that you and Jim shared. I was glad to have gotten to know him and have both of you visit my home. Peace to you my friend.
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Becky Tolo Hakimian posted a condolence
Friday, April 17, 2009
I met Jim on a visit to Orlando and found him to be a delightful, humorous person.They were ready to take us out to dinner, but Persian culture encourages a home cooked meal with lots of fresh fruit. so we stayed home. We had a wonderful evening together. I am sure Jim is having some lively discussions in Heaven with the Tolo and Gray angels. My love and sympathy go out to all of you.
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Sherri in Big Bear, California posted a condolence
Friday, April 17, 2009
Hi Connie, Thank you for letting me know about Jim going to the lord. I wish you all the best in your future life. Jim was a great guy and i am so glad i got to meet you and him in 1996. Me and my family will always have our special memories we shared with you both when you came to Big Bear to visit. Jim I will miss you very much and will see you again some day in heaven. God Blessed you Connie with a wonderful husband. I hope to see you in Big Bear again. Please keep in contact. Love , Sherri : )
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Casey & Toriann Garner posted a condolence
Thursday, April 16, 2009
It was a great honor to know Jim. We loved and respected him very much. His opinions were fair and thoughtful, and we appreciated him very much for that. We will miss his guidance, support, and most of all, his love. God bless Jim as he is home now with our Lord. God bless Connie, as she stays behind to continue to share her love for life with her family and friends. Jim, you are missed.
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Thor & Shelly Tolo posted a condolence
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Connie,
We send to you our deepest condolences yet also celebrate the life of your wonderfully loving husband, Jim. His smile really could light up a room and his opinionated nature made him all the more charming. His zest for life truly was contagious and he had such a warm heart. His sense of humor is how he seemed to enjoy communicating and we'll always remember the too few occasions we spent together. Jim's being with Jesus must be such comfort as you remember his legacy of friendships and togetherness through your smiles and tears. Thanks for bringing him into our lives.
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Marv and Dottie Bartlett, Jamestown, IN posted a condolence
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Connie,
We will miss Jim, but we are thankful that we have many fond memories of him. He and Marv have been friends since they were 10 years of age and Jim's family moved to Acton, IN. He was my best email buddy, and email is not the same without him. I could always count on it being interesting, sometimes controversial and often laugh out loud funny. He is greatly missed. And how neat is it that he was born on a Good Friday and went to be with Our Lord on an Easter Sunday!!
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.
Love,
Dottie and Marv
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Karsten and Kirsten Lundring posted a condolence
Thursday, April 16, 2009
What great memories of Jim. Well written to bring back those highlights. We're really glad that we got to see both Jim and Connie last fall, at the Pacific Lutheran and Cal Lutheran football game in Tacoma. Jim wasn't interested in the football at all, but fun to see friends. Great for a short visit. We love you both.
K & K
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Holly Jacobus posted a condolence
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Connie I thank you for sharing Jim with me. Seeing him a few times everyweek alsways made coming to work enjoyable. Though we nicknamed him Grumpy he was always full of heart. I will always remember him and be thankful I got to know him and you. My sympathies are with you. I am so glad you have such a wonderful and beautiful family here now to be with you. I will always be near to talk and reminisce. With love and thoughts Holly
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Jim and LaNell Mahler posted a condolence
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Dear Connie,
Our deepest sympathies to you. What a lovely tribute you wrote. The words so aptly described Jim. Jim was always so helpful to our son Matthew when he hired Matthew to be the lock-up person at Ascension. Thanks you for including us in the email you sent.
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Pamela Wade posted a condolence
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Dear Connie:
I am so sad to hear of your dear husband's death, but how symbolic that he should have been born on Good Friday and die on Easter Sunday. I know how much the two of you loved your new life and new home in Olympia and I hope that the good times you shared together will help you through the coming months. My love to you and you family.
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Tom and Mary Cairns posted a condolence
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Please accept our sincere sympathy. We met Jim on several occasions and were struck by his kind heart and friendly ways. He really loved and appreciated you, Connie, and he dedicated himself to your comfort and happiness in a rare and wonderful way. He may have shown a crusty exterior to the world at times, but inside was one of the kindest people imaginable. He will be missed by us but he will be loving it up there with his Lord. How cool that he entered heaven on the celebration of Jesus' doing the same thing! Love, Tom and Mary
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Hubert Lienhard ( his German Golf partner in T.O.) posted a condolence
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
I met Jim on the Los Robles Golf course. In our first round we had an interesting discussion about the world as such . This was when I experienced his openly sharing of his opinion . We exchanged phone numbers and had many good rounds. Our families met and we had nice dinners. I looked foreward to every round of golf with him whenever I stayed in Thousand Oaks our second home next to our German residence.
I know that Jim will follow my game from above, smiling at my failing attempts to play golf as good as he always did.
Today April 15. 2009 I will go out to "his" Los Robles Golf course and play one round for him
Jim I miss you
Hubert Lienhard, Ingrid Lienhard and our two kids, Jan and Christiane
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Wilbur & Dee Skeels, Thousand Oaks, California posted a condolence
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
How appropriate that Jim should be called home on the Day of Resurrection! He was a good man, and we were honored to know him. Love and prayers to you, Connie.
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