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Josh Boykin (nephew) posted a condolence
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
It's been over six years now since my uncle Carl passed way. I'm slightly ashamed to admit it's taken me so long to say what I felt about my uncle Carl, but after his death it was so hard for me to voice my grief. I remember all the great times I had at Carl's house on the weekends, talking about each other's lives and watching more car shows than I could possibly remember. Looking back, some of the topics we discussed I was incredibly naive about, but Carl always let me voice my opinion and talk with me about it as if I was an adult. Uncle Carl always encouraged me to give everything I had to whatever endeavor I was attempting, regardless of what he thought personally. I often wish that he could see what I've become now and I could talk to him one more time just about the comings and goings of our days, but I know that he is no longer in pain and that he left a mark on every person he met. I remember when I was first learning to play the guitar, he would ask me to play something for him and even though I wasn't very good at the time he always had such enthusiasm for it that I couldn't help but stick it out and get better. I miss him and my aunt Jan more than I could ever hope to describe with mere words.
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Frankie (little brother) posted a condolence
Saturday, May 6, 2006
its been six months ago today,
i havent known what to say
then just the other day
i heard your voice say
"hey frankie, wanna go out and play?"
the delight in your voice a display
quietly i said aloud "bones is ok"
your presence is often quite near
slowly subduing my fear
and occasionally offer a cheer
i dread each year
that you wont be here
but as i wipe a tear
i know its your voice that i hear
your loud and your clear
and thank you for lending an ear.
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Kelsey posted a condolence
Friday, May 5, 2006
Hey, Carl. What's heaven like? We all miss you. I know I do.
Is Tucker there? And is he still really really fat?
Everytime I go to Olympia I am hoping to see you there, but you're not.
It's okay though. Because everytime I look at the sky I swear I can feel you.
All my love,
Kelsey
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Zachary J. Cole (nephew) posted a condolence
Tuesday, May 2, 2006
Jan, I am sorry for your loss,Carl was such an inspiration to everyone. It pained me to hear of his death. Even though I didn't get to see him very often, bacause I live in Utah I cherished every moment I saw him
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Lonnie Boykin (cousin) posted a condolence
Sunday, March 12, 2006
Jan, I wanted to thank you for bringing such fulfillment to bones life.You were a wonderful wife and friend to him.I hope life finds you well.We miss him and your kindness. Yours friends always Lonnie and family.
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Lisa Watkins posted a condolence
Monday, December 12, 2005
Sorry I haven't posted sooner, but was not sure exactly how to say what I am feeling. I guess it's true what they say, you never know what you got till its gone. Carl was truly a special person and I know deep down in my soul there was much rejoicing in heaven when Carl arrived. We may have lost him, but they have gained an incredible soul and Carl is well again. Carl, I wish I would have said thank you to you while you were still on this earth. Thank you for getting the Watkins family up here to Olympia, because if you didn't, I wouldn't have met Lee and my kids wouldn't have exsisted. I shudder to think what my life would have been like. You have also been an inspiration to me in other ways. I now find myself with my own health issues, some of them that will cause me pain for the rest of my life. Every time I want to complain or play the poor me game, I think of you, and you give me strength. I have always wanted to be a counselor, I now have a passion that has both arisen out of my own experiences and from watching your strength, to counsel those with chronic conditions. You were special Carl, and if I can help myself and others overcome the depression and other mental issues that arises out of living with chronic conditions, what greater gift can I give back to you and this world of ours? To help us all with conditions (albeit mine are nowhere near as serious as yours was) overcome, gain strength and become productive members of society and through our pain, give others strength. God bless you Carl. And God bless all of us who are dealing with your passing.
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Twila Hosford posted a condolence
Sunday, December 11, 2005
Elaine and Dennis, It sadden my heart to hear of Carl's passing. I will always remember his spirit. He helped everyone who asked without expecting anytinhg in return. He touched my life forever. God bless you. Love, Twila
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Chris & Diane Williams posted a condolence
Saturday, December 10, 2005
Dennis, Elaine, Frank,
Steve Rouse called and told us about Carl. We are so sorry for your loss. The world has lost a beautiful sprit. He was an inspiration to all of us. All ways happy and friendly to everbody.
Jan we never got to meet you but we have been told nothing but good about you and the way you were so good for Carl. I hope in the future you can think of the good times with pleasure and not sadness.
I met Carl when I was a teen ager he would hang out with the Rouses, and Ed Elliott who was married to my sister Debby. We allways had alot of fun. Carl would come by and see Chris and I when he came down from WA. Chris played with the Rouse boys too. Music of course. We will all miss Carl.
Sincerely, Diane (O'Leary) and Chris Williams
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Kelley Devoe (niece) posted a condolence
Saturday, December 10, 2005
I loved having Carl and Jan live in the apartment at my parents. More often than not, if I came over in the morning I would see Carl outside basking in the sun. He enjoyed the simple things in life like the warm sun on his back or a good piece of KFC original recipe. Carl was so warm and giving, always wanting his guests to be comfortable and happy. Like Karli, I remember the 4th of July and how proud he was to welcome guests to his home and his party. Carl did and still does have such a beautiful spirit. I was so awed by him and his personality. He had so much he could have complained about but he kept a smile on his face. I know that he is free now and loving that new freedom. Jan I am deeply sorry for your loss and sorry that I could not be there. Please take some comfort in knowing how much we all loved Carl and that we are all here for you if you should need anything.
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Alice & Tom Laffey posted a condolence
Saturday, December 10, 2005
Dear Jan,
We are not going to say that we are "sorry" that Carl is no longer handicapped by the requirements and restraints of this life but that we express love that he is no longer incapicated by his failing kidneys, diabetis, and no longer have to face the further reduction of his two legs. Our total sympathy and love is to you, Jan. Carl was such a sweet guy and so much a part of your existence. His passing leaves a huge vacancy and hole in your life. You were his total care giver and now he is no longer available for your supplications and administration to his needs.
Tom's kidney is working fine but it will be a while until he is really settled with all the medications and doctor visits.
Again, love, Jan and thinking of you going through this Christmas season without your beloved, Carl.
God Bless,
Alice &Tom Laffey
laffey@cco.net
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Alyssa Devoe posted a condolence
Saturday, December 10, 2005
A fond memory I have of Carl is how proud he was of Jan's cooking and how giving he was with what they had. Jan would make a big pot of soup and Carl thought it was so good and wanted to share it. He was so happy to offer this good food to everyone. We would go down, have a bowl of soup, chat with Carl and Jan and watch the Weather Channel.
Something else that really impressed me about Carl was that he always called me by the right name. My sisters and I often get confused with one another, but never by Carl. It always touched me that he cared enough to treat us as individuals and get our names right. That really doesn't happen very often, and I think it really says a lot about the kind of man Carl was.
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Valjean (sister in law) posted a condolence
Saturday, December 10, 2005
I wanted to resubmit my poem in a format that made sense.
For Carl and Jan whom I love dearly,
The Keys of Life
The keys of life on a ring of Gold,
Ancient legends yet to be told,
Pure light in the eyes of a newborn child,
All joined by the love of Gold.
A tiny bird flies in the dawn's early light,
The day rebirthing, enfolding the night,
The cycle of life beginning again,
All touched by the hand of God.
The Earth revolving around the sun,
The healing of humanity, yet undone,
A rainbow bridge connecting all life,
All held in the arms of God.
The glory of humanity held in love,
Secrets of the ages, messages from above,Angels abounding, guiding us home,
Joined as one in the heart of God.
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Dennis Boykin (Brother) posted a condolence
Saturday, December 10, 2005
I want to say "Thank You" to everyone for the kind words about my older brother Carl. Dan, you did a great job at the funeral. That meant a lot to me and my entire family. I also want to give a special "Thank You" to Jan's sister Judy for organizing the church event.
I have sat and read all the wonderful words everyone has to say about my brother and think about what a big void is left in my life with Carl gone. My teen years were spent growing up in a small town called Taft, California with my Dad Jim and my two older brothers Carl and Jimmy. I remember one time when Carl had ditched school for several months and when he returned to school he would tell the teachers he had overslept. He always got a big laugh when he would see the expressions on there faces when he would tell them.
My children miss Carl as well. He was a very special Uncle for them. They all adored him. I often wondered what they liked about going over to his house. But from what I can tell what they loved about it was just sitting with Carl and spending time with him. Carl had a way of making them feel special. He always had a story to tell and always made them feel like they were a big part of his life. Last night I listened to an old phone message I got from Carl on my 40th birthday. He had called to say "Happy 40th" He got such a kick out of the fact that his little brother was now in he 40's. I will miss calling him on my way home from work just to talk. He called me the night before he died and woke me up when he called. He said "Did I wake you?" I said yes, but it was ok. I asked him what was going on? he said he just called to BS. He told me to go back to sleep and he would call me the next day. He really worried that he had woken me up. Carl was like that. Always making sure I was ok and that I was getting plenty of rest. He knew I got up early for work (3:30am). That is how Carl was. Always putting others first. That is one thing I admired about him.
Carl always told me he hated Dialysis, The only thing that made it bearable was that he loved the people there very much. He said he felt like they were his extended family, I remember he always talked about the staff and all the other people there as if he was talking about "family". He loved the ambulance rides and really liked all the drivers he said that the amulance drivers where a great bunch of people. He would always talk about how wonderful each of them were to him and how he always looked forward to seeing who was going to show up to take him . I want to thank every one of them that made it to his funeral. That shows how much Carl meant to you.
There is one thing I want to share with everyone, I do know one thing. Carl was happy. He had a wonderful life with Jan. He loved Jan and loved her children very much. He always taked about them bringing over the "Kiddies". He loved spending time with his grandchildren. He was blessed with wonderful friends like all of you and a wonderful family, I look forward to the day I can spend time with him again. We miss you Carl. Our lives are better for knowing you. Love, your little brother Dennis
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Kellie, Blake and Brett Boykin posted a condolence
Saturday, December 10, 2005
Jan and family,
So sorry to hear about Carl. The boys and I regret not getting together with you guys more. We will fondly remember Carl and his jokes. Love and blessings to your family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Lonnie Boykin (cousin) posted a condolence
Saturday, December 10, 2005
Carl, I will never forget the time,you ,me and my nephew Robert, went over a hundred fifteen miles an hour in your Trans am. I looked over at you from the passenger seat scared, and you had this grin on your face from ear to ear. We shared many fast times and quiet moments together. Thank you for keeping me safe when my father died,Your wisdom kept me in check when I thought I would lose it all together. Carl a feast was thrown in your Honor when you finally entered our fathers house. Boykins Rule!
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Cheryl Dale (cousin) posted a condolence
Friday, December 9, 2005
One of the goofiest memories I have of Carl is when he and his brother Jimmy, both in their 20's, rode a motorcycle down from Taft to visit some friends in Southern California and they stopped in Fontana to visit my grandparents and me. It was winter in California and pouring down cold rain. Both of them were soaking wet and freezing. Their garbage bag "raincoats" did nothing against the onslaught of the cold winter rain. If I recall correctly, neither of them was wearing a decent coat. The motorcycle was a little thing, not really even a two seater. We wondered how they made it as far as the had, but there they were, 100 miles from home, showing up on the doorstep pleased as punch with themselves and very happy to see us. They stayed long enough to eat, warm up, and dry off. My grandmother gave them extra clothes to wear, so many in fact that they barely fit back on that little motorcycle for their trip home. Watching them drive off had me worried for their safety but also chuckling at their adventure. They were enjoying themselves.
Carl truly enjoyed life. I love the memories of his laughter and his kind and gentle soul. I am truly sorry that I have not been able to see him since so many years ago when we were all still living in CA. Even though our families are living further apart, I never stopped thinking about all of you. Having Carl as a cousin was truly a blessing. I am so very sorry to hear of his passing. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. I can hear the laughter raining down from heaven. He's got them all in stitches up there :)
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Karli Devoe (niece) posted a condolence
Friday, December 9, 2005
I will always remember how easily my fellow Carly fit into the family. There was no akward transition, he just loved us all and we loved him. I will always, always be grateful for the love and dedication he showed to my Aunt Jan. He made her so happy, and she deserved that. I just read what my dad said, about how Carl always had a smile on his face and a good word to share. It's true. If anyone had an excuse to whine and complain, it was Carl. But he never did. And he never got caught up in his own interests. He always wanted to know what was going on in with everybody else, their adventures and triumphs and disappointments. This last 4th of July, Carl (with the help of his new chair) was able to stay outside with the family for almost the whole picnic, and he was so happy! He was surrounded by his beautiful grandbabies and had his Jan by his side. He had on a huge smile that whole night.
You have fought the good fight, you have finished the race. Well done, thou good and faithful servant. Say Hi to Grandpa Devoe up there!
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Julie Rice posted a condolence
Friday, December 9, 2005
Jan, just wanted to say my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. So sorry for your loss.
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Loren Williams posted a condolence
Friday, December 9, 2005
I have known Carl for many years. I work for the ambulance company that transported Carl to Renal Care every other day.
What sticks in my mind is, every time we came to take him to dialisys, his last words were alway's to Jan. He would say " By Baby, I Love You". Carl to us at AMR was more than a patient. More than a paying customer that we had to transport. He was our friend.
We all enjoyed taking Carl. For some of us oldies, it also meant listening to KZOK 102.5 on the radio. I mean Loud to. We will miss these times, this friendship. We will miss talking about the earlier days. Yet for others , they will miss getting a chance to have a cigarette and good conversation. In my times of transporting Carl, I have never heard him complain. He was dealt a bad hand, health wise. He was always in a good mood. On the other side he was dealt the best hand in a very fine lady and family.
Jan we will always have him in our hearts. Please do not think for a minuite he did not love with all his heart. He is in a better place now, whole again with no illness to slow him down. I do belive he is looking down on you every day. Look up and say I Love You every day to him. Because he will be looking down saying the same thing. Jan if you need anything please do not hesitate to call. You remeber the number.
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Valjean posted a condolence
Friday, December 9, 2005
I wrote this poem several years ago, and I want to dedicate it to my brother Carl.
Keys of Life
The keys of life on a ring of gold
Ancient legends yet to be told
Pure light in the eyes of the newborn child
All joined by the love of God.
A tiny bird flies in the dawn's early light,
The day rebirthing, enfolding the night,
The cycle of life beginning again,
All touched by the hand of God.
The Earth revolving around the Sun,
The healing of humanity yet undone,
A rainbow bridge connecting all life,
All held in the arms of God.
The glory of humanity held in love
The secrets of the ages, messages from above
Angels abounding, guiding us home
Joined as one in the heart of God.
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Diane Ables posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
Elaine,
I am so sorry to hear of your brother's passing. There is no easy way to get thru this time, yet with the love and support of friends and family, it will be made bearable. And then you will be free to remember the good times you all shared with him. I remember the fun you had Christmas shopping for him last year. May you know comfort from the rest he knows with God.
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Linda & Tony Perez posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
Elaine, we are so sorry to hear of the loss of your brother, Carl. I remember when I met him and his soon to be wife. You asked me to take pictures of them. I also remember how very close you were to him. I know this time seems unbearable, but with support of friends and family, it will get easier. We send our sincere sympathy.
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Crystal posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
Carl,
You have been an amazing inspiration in my life. You are so strong and such a trooper. I have been honored to have you as my dad. You were the one to buy me my first and second car, and the one to rescue me when they broke down. You were the one that decieded that I was grown and needed my own place and helped me to get it. You and my mom have watched all of us kids fall and have always picked us back up. You were my personal ATM (wich I still owe you $30) always willing to help me out. If Mom said No I could turn to you and get a Yes. My children love their Papa and I will make sure that your memory never fades... Ross will always know who he is named after and will carry on your name with honor. I have always know this day would come, but I didnt think It would hurt this bad. I will miss you everyday of my life. Love your daughter and your grandbabies.....Crystal, Emily, and Robert Ross
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crystal posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
Some memories to share.....
Some of you may remember when Carl had an obession with motor oil ..... He would buy huge Costco size boxes of oil and would make you check your oil level and have you put oil in your car everytime you went to see him, and then he would send you home with several bottles to keep just in case.....No matter if you had some where to be or were in a hurry he would have some poor unsuspecting soul do an oil change on your car right then and there.
I also remember when My parents got me my own phone line...I thought that was sooooo cool, until I started getting phone calls all hours of the night because Carl either dropped the remote control or he couldnt find his lighter.
I have so many memories of Carl that I cant even begin to write them all down...Please share any memories that you have of Carl
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Hanger Prosthetics and Orthotics posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
You are in our thoughts. We are sorry for your loss.
The staff at Hanger
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Barbara Rambo posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
Dear Jan:Thank you for all you did for my son. You were the sunshine in his life. Wish I could be there w/all of you. Take care of yourself. Love you. He Was My Hero.
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Kelsey Caires (Elaine's Step-Daughter) posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
This is hard. I knew it would happen but this hurts a lot more than I thought it would. I imagined it would be like "He is in a better place now. I am happy for that". In reality, I tried to think about that. I could only think of how an amazing person has left us, someone that was the kindest and the most generous person I had known.
I remember one time, Elaine and I came to Olympia to help Carl and Jan clean their house (Emily was there too :) ). Emily and I were hired the job to pick up everything that would get stuck in the vaccuum. So there we were, trying to pick up everything possible, almost like a contest. And Carl, the wonderful person he was (and still is), said that we could keep all of the spare change we found on the floor. And man, there must have been like $10.00 we found I'm guessing...for each of us! That day was the most fun I've had cleaning, ever.
Carl, I love you and you were the greatest.
I loved helping you all the time and I loved helping you move from house to house.
Carl, Elaine told me the other day
that you had wanted to tell me that you were
proud of me
for singing in front of all of those people.
You have no idea how much that means to me, and I wish you could have said that to me in person.
It pains me to know that when I go to Olympia again, it wont be the same.We love you Carl, and we will always miss you, forever.
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Michelle Lovezz (friend of Kelsey's) posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
even though i never met him he sounds real cool. and I'm sorry for your loss :( reading this makes me frown :( and i usually smile..
Lovezz
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JAN(Carl's wife) posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
Carl was the most loving husband awoman could ever want.I could get up inthe morning with my hair standing on end,my eyes swollen and my face covered with pillow creases aInd he would tell me how much he loved me and how beautiful I was.I alwas told him that must be looking at me through love colored glasses. we had a very loving relationship and told each other every day how much we loved each other.
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Carls wife posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
as you may be able to tell,we just recently got a computer and I didn't proof read my message, please excuse the errors. Carl and I were married on May 26 not may 5th
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Sam Rouse posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
I knew Carl Bones since he was a toddler playing in the cotton fields of Kern county. He grew into a man of genuine integrity and was one of the closests friends I have ever known. This poem from J.R.R.Tolkien, a writer Carl admired, says it well:
Where now the horse and the rider? Where is the horn that was blowing?
Where is the helm and the hauberk, and the bright hair flowing?
Where is the hand on the harpstring, and the red fire glowing?
Where is the spring and the harvest and the tall corn growing?
They have passed like rain on the mountain, like a wind in the meadow;
The days have gone down in the West behind the hills into shadow.
Who shall gather the smoke of the dead wood burning,
Or behold the flowing years from the Sea returning?
Several years ago was was with Carl when he gave his heart to the Lord so I'll close with these words to my old friend Carl, "I'll see ya in heaven Bones"
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Elaine Caires (favorite sister) posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
I will miss Carl Bones very much. As a child he was the one who liked to pick on me. As a teen-ager he was my protector. In my 20's (after his accident)he became my child. I bathed him, fed him, cared for him as if he was my big baby. Carl and I have many memories of fun and not-so-fun experiences. I feel like I have lost my only child. I know he is in a better place with my dad and brother Jimmy, and this is the only comfort I have at a time like this. My fondest memory of him was going on a trip to visit my mom and family and friends in Bakersfield. Carl recived a huge pressure sore on his knee during the trip down so we were not able to visit as we would like to. My mom had a small trailer that had a covered car-port and we set a bed up outside and spent the whole week there. It was like CAMPING. It was the most wonderful time we cooked on the BBq or someone brought us food. Every one came to visit us at our campsight. We stayed up late and talked story with our family and friends. and in the morning one of my mom's ex-husbands would show up with breakfast. The big joke was who was gonna show up first...
Everyone loved Carl, and to him EVERYONE was family.
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Judy Hyers posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
Elaine,
Though I never knew Carl I remember how very close the two of you were. You always spoke of him with great love in your voice.
You will always have great memories to cherish forever. My deepest sympathy to you and family.
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John Kendrick posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
To the family of Carl Boykin, my name is John Kendrick or Big John as Carl would call me. My family and I would like to express our condolences to you. Carl is my best friend and it saddens my heart to hear of the loss of Carl. Carl and I were good friends in Taft, I often traveled with Carl when he made his runs down to Los Angeles and kept him company on those long rides when he drove truck for Herman Watson. Carl was a good truck driver and tried to teach me how to drive truck, but I never caught on. Carl loved to drive truck until his unfortunate accident. Carl shared a lot of jokes with me and he kept me laughing for hours it seemed. I'll miss you my friend. I know there is a great celebration going on in the streets of glory for your arrival, goodbye for now I'll see you there.
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Lorinda Collins posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
I didn't know Carl personaly but I have heard alot about him from his daughter Crystal I just wanted his family to know that you are all in my prayers.
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Judy Devoe posted a condolence
Thursday, December 8, 2005
I will love you forever Carl, for the pure soul you were and how you showed my beloved sister Jan what true love was. It was a pleasure to have you two live downstairs in your apartment. We could always drop in anytime and you were glad to have us. I will always remember you flying down the long driveway as fast as you could go, just after you got your new super chair. your hair was flying and the dogs were running next to you. (you called it "walking the dogs", I knew that you were experiencing the feeling of flying and being free. What a glorious experience it must have been for you when you realized that you had been released from your body of pain and suffering and that you were soaring with the angels. We would not wish you back to suffer more, but we will surely miss you. Love Judy
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April, Scott & Hannah Irish posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 7, 2005
I am so saddened for the loss we all share. I regret not being able to have seen Carl or his family recently and for not keeping in better touch. I will always remember him with a special place in my heart. We love you and can take comfort in knowing that, in Heaven, you are now free as a bird to do all the things you love.
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Uncle Dave, Aunt Raeleen, Cassondra and family posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 7, 2005
We will remember how upbeat Carl always was, he stared down the face of adversity at every turn, but made it look easy. We will miss the phone calls, with the uplifting voice at the end of the phone saying...Hi, this is Carl. Carl, you will always live in our hearts!!!
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Leah Hanuska posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 7, 2005
Carl will be missed, I grew up with Elaine (adopted family sister) and I loved Carl as my (adopted family brother).
He will always hold a special place in my heart.
I remember growing up and how carl loved the race cars and hearing all the stories he told us.
I am so saddened by the news but I know he is now in heaven and no more pain and doing all the things he loved in life.
Love, Leah
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Laurie Ann Hope posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 7, 2005
Sorry to hear of your brother. May the Lord comfort you and your family. Aloha Ke Akua, Laurie Ann
(Elaine's Neice)
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